Just Love It, Or not?

There are few things that are common ground for any and everyone.  A few of these things are physically a necessity in order to keep living such as food, water, things like a shelter; these are objects that keep us physically safe and give us the ability to survive.  Another few things might not be categorized as “a must” to live.  These are the intangibles like family, the sun, and other things that keep, or make, us happy, and of course LOVE.

I know this is cliche, but it’s true, love is simple; a feeling that makes us happy.  Yet it is extremely complex.  How come we cannot construct this feeling ourselves or with objects?  Or, why is it necessary that we receive it under someone else’s conditions?  Why is it that we will all wonder what it is like until we feel it?  And, once we do feel/find it, we still know it’s under another person’s circumstances that we can continue to feel this?  When we do find it or feel it for the first time, we feel as though we cannot go on in life with out it.  So we do things that others wouldn’t for a particular person.  This is a crazy thing, our life is blurred when it’s not around and then skewed when it is.

I know that before I felt it, I believed I was better off with out it.  And as I write this, when I know it will make us do ridiculous things, I’m thinking, well aren’t we, aren’t we better off with out it?  This being a yes or no answer is simple; no, we’re not.  As I mentioned earlier, things that make us happy I consider to be a necessity to live.  Well LOVE is one of those things.  It’s a commonality, we all love love.  Love makes us happy, much happier than we would be if we never felt it.

Now, I also can tell you, we can love multiple people and in different ways.  What is simple about love? Absolutely nothing.  To contradict my self earlier, love appears to be simple, and on the surface it is, but really, it is as complex as the milky way.  There is a good thing about this, none of us will spend our entire lives searching for it, I guarantee this.  Love can be found in many ways with many people.  Some love is to the slightest degree, other love is so deep, reaching levels that cannot be reached with any other feeling.  Love can take on many feelings too; it’s not just one feeling.  It’s happiness, sadness, lust, regret, meanness, comfort, and it does not discriminate.  More or less.  We all have experienced some form of love, whether it was our parents, a close friend, an acquaintance, a pet, and of course a significant other.

I want to focus on the strongest degree of love, the love we share with a significant other.  I have felt it, I know it is great, some haven’t felt this form of love yet and others might never.  This is the love that I mentioned could skew and throw off our entire thought process.  Although it could be very unhealthy, I want to emphasize how healthy it can be.

1. It makes us happy; it can also make people on the outside happy with us
2. It gives us a sense of security; we always have one person that will be on our side
3. It helps us experience working with others; it sounds unimportant, but think about how much we compromise with our significant others.  Being independent is not always the best thing
4. The person that loves us will always make us feel like we are special

I could go on with reasons that love is actually quite healthy.  It’s a great thing that we shouldn’t be scared of.  So shouldn’t we all Just Love It?

I have also felt another form of love, and I am still experiencing the negativity of it.  Being in love with a person that doesn’t feel the same way.  This form of love is not healthy and can make us feel inadequate in life.  What is wrong with me? Why can we feel this way about someone that doesn’t share the same feelings towards us? That’s the evil part of love.  We do extra things that we would never do, and others wouldn’t either for that matter, and it goes unappreciated.  How do we get rid of our feeling of love?  That is my question.  I’m a strong supporter and advocate for love, it’s a great thing, but I cannot tell you how we get rid of a feeling that is supposed to make us feel good.

This is how complex it is.  We all want it, and we all do end up feeling some degree of it.  It can be camouflaged into other emotions.  We can have multiple loves during our lives and even experience them at the same time.  We can love someone that does not reciprocate the feeling.  We cannot seem to erase the feeling, I mean if we have felt it and have felt the negative parts of it, we know how bad it can hurt us.  We can’t erase those feelings from our memories.  It can be very healthy keeping us living, but it can be extremely unhealthy and at times kill us.

So my advice, if it’s possible we need to avoid the love that has potential to be unhealthy.  Avoid the love that has the capacity to kill us.  Seek the love that is almost as strong and never give it the ability to break us down.  If it is the love that is strong enough to kill us be sure the other feels the same way.  Some people might disagree with this, those that believe being vulnerable with your significant other is special.  Well it is special, giving someone else the ability to control us through our love for them is dangerous.  And sometimes we cannot control that, but the other person better be trustworthy or even better, feel the same way towards us.

Hello world!

This is my very first blog post on my very first blog.  My name is Savannah I recently graduated from Clemson University.  Just Live It is sort of my life motto.  If I could I would try just about everything once (as long as I would live through it), visit every single place we have on Earth, and be that person that always says yes to a challenge.  When ever I’m faced with an opportunity to do something new, I try to encourage everyone to do it with me!  I do not know how many times I have used the phrase “Just Live It,” when I’m approached with new situations.

I decided to write blogs because I actually thoroughly enjoy writing.  During college I changed my major between Creative Writing and Psychology three times.  I finally ended up choosing and sticking with Psychology.  Which is great I love Psychology and enjoyed each of my courses.  So with that decision came my decision to include writing in my life, but as a hobby.  This led me to creating this blog!  I don’t have a set theme, but I do have a goal for myself; I have decided to upload one blog per week.  Some might be research oriented, insightful, opinionated blogs; others might be completely 100 percent fiction.

So as my Grandpa would say, “Here’s to it and to it and to it again, and if you go to it to do it and don’t do it, then may you never go to it to do it again.”